Learning a Lesson From a Younger Person…..
Earlier today, I had a few errands to run and I learned a very valuable lesson from a younger couple.
I had pulled up to a stop light to make a left, and glanced over into the car next to me…there was a young couple, a baby and possibly a 5 year old in the back seat. The young couple, probably “20 something’s” were in the front of the car just screaming at each other. He began “I don’t give a F$%& what you think….this is the way it’s going to be” to which she replied “You’re the F$%&ing a$%hole who did this…” you get the idea, it was not a pretty thing to see or hear.
As I drove off, I tried to put it into perspective remembering all I was struggling to deal with in life at “20 Something”…..it’s not an easy time. The pressures of adult life are starting to creep up on you by then, some have had kids already, some may be struggling to find a job some may still be dealing with trying to find themselves as well as trying to find a mate to live life with. I did all I possibly could to remember how hard life is…..and was for me back then.
What I couldn’t excuse though, is this kind of behavior in front of the kids. Sure, no parent is perfect and everyone blows up from time to time, and maybe that’s all I saw today….but man, to be that abusive toward one another, to put a kid in the middle of all of their short comings seemed almost criminal to me. I tried to imagine what the boy in the back seat was thinking….was he afraid? Was he upset? God forbid….was he used to this? If he is used to this, does he consider it acceptable? Will he pass it on to his kids?
Scary thoughts, and in as much as I truly do remember how hard life was in my 20′s…..I would hope that if you struggle with life like these young folks were obviously struggling, you would at very least hold your tongue in front of the kids. If you do have a blow up, make sure that you show those kids in action and in words that even parents make mistakes and they had made up. If by chance this is a repeating pattern, let me tell you something…..life is way too short to continue on that miserable. For the sake of your sanity and the kids….find another way, or try to find what made you fall in love with the person you had the kids with and get back to it……we need to be better than that as a species.
The lesson I took away? To remember to always be grateful that someone loves me…..Cindy. To remember that no matter the circumstance, letting a discussion sink to the point of name calling and insults will never result in expected outcomes, and finally to do my very best to respect myself and those around me enough to be willing to share some thoughts on the subject. Maybe pass along some words of wisdom to those younger than me, who are still fighting that uphill battle of their 20′s